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사랑 is a tricky emotion. There are some things that feel like 사랑 but they are much too superficial to be the real thing. Real 사랑 takes time and doesn't happen overnight. Here are three things that people often confuse for love.

I don’t personally believe that 사랑 can really be defined 의해 anyone, but oh well. People like to try new things.

Lust A.k.a, Twilight


Lust is the feeling that is often mistaken for 사랑 at first sight. Lust is an intense and sudden attraction to somebody 당신 hardly know. It is mistaken for 사랑 because the attraction is so strong.

This sounds a lot like Bella and Edward, right?

Lust can feel like 사랑 because the feelings of attraction are strong and all-consuming. The emotions stirred up 의해 lust can feel very real but they are based on a fantasy. To 사랑 somebody 당신 must know them well but many people fall in lust while they are still strangers. What people in lust fall for is a 판타지 of what might be and reality can get 로스트 in the excitement.

I admit, this sounds a LOT like Bella, in the beginning

Overwhelmed 의해 physical attraction people in lust can't keep their hands off of each other. They think about each other constantly and talk about one another all the time. Lust is a happy feeling brought on 의해 passionate attraction. If 당신 are inexperienced in matters of the 심장 it is very easy to mistake all that passion for love.

Yes, Bella grabbed Edward a lot. Bella never really talked about Edward with anyone besides Edward. Both of them are inexperienced at matters of the heart

Lust differs from 사랑 like night differs from day. Lust happens in the early phase of a relationship when people don’t yet know each other. Lust is based on a fantasy, and the 판타지 and reality don’t always mesh up. This is where lust runs out of steam.

Although physical attraction is definitely a key ingredient in any romantic relationship, 사랑 is 더 많이 than just a physical longing. If a relationship is all about physical attraction it is based on lust. Really loving another person takes time and it can't be based on physical attraction alone.

Obsession a.k.a, New Moon


Obsessions are often mistaken for 사랑 because people rationalize the crazy feelings they are having. They assume that it must be 사랑 if the other person is always on their mind. Obsession is similar to lust but it is much 더 많이 misleading and destructive. While lust is often fleeting, fading as two people come to know each other better, obsession sticks around.

Before anyone says that Bella and Edward never got to know each other before this stage, please allow me to direct 당신 link. You’ll need to scroll a little further than halfway down the page to see Edward asking Bella about every detail of her life as a way to get to know her. This was before Edward said he loved her, but after Bella claimed to be irrevocably in love, unfortunately.

The 더 많이 time and effort invested in an unhealthy obsession the 더 많이 intense the obsession can become. People in an obsessed state have a one track mind where the other person is concerned and they often lose touch with who they are as an individual. This loss of individuality creates a vicious 원, 동그라미 of behavior where the obsessed person grows 더 많이 and 더 많이 dependent on the other person to bolster their sense of self.

This pretty much speaks for itself. Bella running off with strange bikers, reckless cliff diving, etc

Even unrequited love, 사랑 that is not returned, can become an overwhelming obsession. When one person believes they are in a relationship that doesn't really exist, 또는 when one person is 더 많이 invested in an existing relationship than the other, the foundation for an obsession has been laid.

One could argue that Bella was in an unrequited relationship because Edward wasn’t actively present at a certain point

Real 사랑 is nurturing and helps people grow but obsession is debilitating. If 당신 feel like 당신 have 로스트 yourself, if 당신 are always striving to please your partner without them doing the same for you, and if 당신 find yourself making all decisions in your life based on the feelings and needs of the other person 당신 could be dealing with obsession.

Also, keep in mind the Mormon belief that a partner is pretty much required.

Rebounding A.k.a, Jacob


A rebound is a relationship that starts up very quickly after another relationship has ended. Rebounds are rarely based on 사랑 but are really a way of alleviating the loneliness people feel when a relationship ends.

Bella uses Jacob as a distraction from her obsessive mentality.

Rebounding can feel like 사랑 for the simple reason that the people involved want to be in love. They are used to the security of being in 사랑 and 더 많이 than anything else they want to feel that security again. They convince themselves that they are in 사랑 when they are actually missing the safety and comfort of the relationship they left behind.

This explains all the confusing emotions. Bella turned to Jacob for the security. Jacob was misled 의해 her intentions.

If an old relationship keeps interfering with the progress of a new relationship it could mean that the relationship is a rebound. When somebody is on the rebound they are not entirely over their 이전 relationship. They may still be trying to work out unresolved issues from that relationship. Rebound relationships may feel like 사랑 but they are still impacted 의해 unsettled feelings from the past.

Bella never got over Edward. It’s expected to believe that if she had gotten over him, 또는 if Edward had never been in the picture at all, there would have been something 더 많이 between Bella and Jacob.

I believe that from this point on, Edward and Bella were indeed in love. Edward, I believe to have been in 사랑 earlier on. Bello jumped the gun and confused her lust with love, but it eventually caught up with her and things evened out.

I believe that real 사랑 cannot happen without a sense of obsession to keep 당신 loyal. Lust is necessary to keep 당신 interested, I guess, but I don't find it necessary. I don't see anything wrong with it either.

In conclusion, there's no denying the initial lust. Bella and Edward took the steps usually taken in forming a proper romantic relationship.




I will have 더 많이 on this as I continue rereading the series.