How do I come out to my therapist?

I've decided that it's important enough for me to come out as a lesbian to my therapist, whom I've been talking to for a couple of years now.

However, I'm concerned that she will be unaccepting 또는 try to change me. She knows I have an interest in gay issues, but I've never really heard her views about it. She's a Christian and has conservative beliefs about sex (like waiting for marriage).

Also, she always talks to me as if I'm interested in guys, although I've never said I am 또는 even hinted at it. I'm sure this news won't be much of a surprise to her, but I'm still nervous. Help?
 SouthParkSmart posted over a year ago
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Xeginy said:
It's important that your therapist knows as much important information as possible. As a therapist, she has a professional responsibility to not bring her own personal ideologies into your sessions. Her priority is on your own mental health, not on her being able to convert 당신 to any particular belief system.

If she is unaccepting, 또는 she tries to change 당신 - then she is a bad therapist. That's all. Homosexuality is not recognized as a mental illness 또는 a disorder 의해 the DSM, so if your therapist treats it like something that needs to be changed, then she is not using basic psychology in her job, but instead bringing in her own personal ideologies. That is extremely unprofessional, and something that only bad therapists will do.

It sounds like 당신 want to tell somebody, and a therapist is generally supposed to be a 안전한, 안전 person. But if she tries some "you're just going through a phase" crap, then be prepared to find a new therapist. 당신 don't deserve to have that bullshit spouted at you.
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r-pattz said:
I think 당신 just say it. "I'm gay."

I told my therapist in my first session, just walked in, closed the door behind me, and said it. Two little words. I think it'd be easier in the beginning of the session too, because if 당신 let the conversation start elsewhere, it's harder to work up the nerve to say it. That much I know from the experiences of coming out to friends. And plus, 당신 wanna have enough time to talk about with your therapist. Mine was an atheist and a liberal though, so there will likely be a difference in reaction, but 당신 do need to tell her. It's an important part of who 당신 are, and she needs to know that about 당신 so she can better understand and help you. If she turns out to be homophobic... *shrugs* Fuck her. Find a new therapist. So just go for it! And good luck. ;)


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kissthespider26 said:
My counsellor at this government job hunter place figured it out 의해 herself (who wouldn't?)

She has no problem with me being bi, but I guess it must be harder for you.

If your therapist has a problem with it, then that's just it. It's HER problem. And 당신 might want to remind her if she starts H8ing that 'God' is supposed to 사랑 all of his creations, and that 'He' made 당신 the way 당신 are.

And if 당신 are proud, and unashamed of your sexuality, I don't think she can 'change' you, nor does she have any right to try.

Good luck, hon.

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Antelo said:
Just tell her. If she's good, she will be accepting.
And if she's not accepting, there are other therapists.
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demonthief said:
U should just tell her. If she doesn't accept you, then that's her problem! ur probaly a really great person. Let her know who u r.
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Emseeem said:
Just tell her. As a therapist, isn't it her job to be accepting?
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