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posted by riathebest_23
Silence is a super common side effect of a fight. 당신 both think us up to the other person to admit she's obviously 로스트 her mind. So why should 당신 be the one to inimate truce. Because 당신 can keep feeling angry and burt, 또는 당신 can decide you'd rather have fun and feel happy. God let's see. E-mail her call, write a note-just make it clear that doing nothing will get nowhere. Do what 당신 have to in order to get this bail rolling if she doesn't respond see bellow.!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!............................................................................................................................................................ ......... ........... ............................... ..............
posted by riathebest_23
The word punish might bring to mind 이미지 of six consecutive weekend grounded with no TV. IM 또는 sleepovers because 당신 accidentally borrowed your dad's drill to crack walnuts on the antique dinning room 표, 테이블 because jeez: sometimes a girl fancies snacking on walnuts. Banish that thought Seriously though pick a dare for your bud to prove she's sorry. Put every condiment in the fridge on a 간물, 피 클 and tell her to eat it. Have her walk up t the hottest guy at the pool, and tell him she's the neighborhood cannonball champ. Think of something just painful enough to be funny but not hurtful. When she's done pinkle swear to be note careful with each others feelings. Then go out for nachoe-topped with every con? At the fixins bar. Maybe not.
posted by riathebest_23
If it's a little 더 많이 complicated than that, and forgiving her becomes a chore on your to do list first decide if a fixer is really the best way to stop up the steam coming out of your ears. 질문 Was this a premedirated Ice 퀸 옮기기 또는 was she totally unaware she'd driven a stake through your heart? Was this the first time your friend did whatever she did to make 당신 mad, 또는 does she do this to 당신 all the time: For a repeat offender see Fight Fixer No 10: If your friend's offense was a first-time flub, why not chalk it up to a she's - only - human mistake and forget about it? Turning the other check on her out-of-character moment is mega nature and will help 당신 "walk away" mentally, which miraculously squalishes the drama you're feeling emotionally. In other words, don't do darn things. If only finals were this easy.
posted by riathebest_23
Yes, fighting is bad, fighting is immature, fighting is painful. But that doesn't mean it isn't a good option. But let's get this straight. Sure you're going to fight, but you're not going to 펀치 bite pull hair, scratch, slap faces, whack windbreakers on each others bare backs of do any thing associated with cheesy car fights. Instead you're going to have a 베개 fight, screaming. "This is for when 당신 mined my new blouse" 또는 "I hate it when 당신 flint with my boyfriend" with each swing. Get out those aggressions, girl. It a 베개 fight doesn't work for 당신 maybe get two boys involved and have a chicken fight on their shoulders in a pool. The point is to fight to end the fight, without ugly bite marks on 당신 arms of an eyeball that feels like it's been scooped out with a spoon Touche.
posted by riathebest_23
This Fixer is about working it out 의해 working out. You're both going to sweat it out side 의해 side until 당신 decide together when enough is enough. A little healthy competition will replace the spat you're having our who did what and whos fight and all that other pop-pycock. Race around the school track, do pull-ups, push-ups, sit-ups, counting around, until one of 당신 drops. When you're sweaty fatigued sick of it all say, "I'm sick of it all especially being in a fight with you" Ten bucks says she'll share her Gatorade in agreement........................... ..........................................................
posted by riathebest_23
Who's going to juzz this big bairy attitude brawill; 당신 are she is Oh! want hell her it's time to deal, and ask her to come to your house in cruddy clothes. Saturday affternoon, Pre-date, birst open your piggy bank and buy two dozen eggs and two 캔디 bars. When she arrives, give her a dozen eggs and yourself a dozen and have an egg toss in the "" yard. 'Win' 의해 operating and throwing the egg right at her T-shirt 또는 jeans, If she looks at 당신 like you've cracked, 'egg' her on to your head. If you're both nor covered in egg and laughing within a few minutes, 당신 blew this assignment. The 캔디 bars are for 당신 guys to eat afterward as 당신 glow in renewed friendship, and yolk.
posted by riathebest_23
What do 당신 do if you're so completely over this rift between 당신 two yet, she still won't cave; it's tempting to want to bail from the friendship and let her wallow in her stubborn anger. But that's the easy way out if 당신 think you've done your share in trying to mend the situation you're probably right. But 당신 can't force her into anything. So, you'll wait. Try not to bold it against her if she needs 더 많이 time than 당신 to cool off. She'll come around and when she does then 당신 use one of the following Friend Fight Fixers to bury the batchet.
posted by riathebest_23
Say 당신 tried a Fight Fixer but despite your best efforts: you're still not over it. We'll call this "right residue," which is just mistrust wearing an everythings OK now mask. There's a China-sized crack of doubt that she might let 당신 down again 또는 maybe she's a tiny bit worried you're Luckily 당신 can swat away these emotional mosquitoes with a contract. On a piece of white paper use black pen to write a list of ways 당신 promise to be good to each other. Then carefully tear the perimerer so all sides are rough-edged. Scranch the paper into a ball unscranch it and dip it in room temperature 차 until it's an old looking yellow color Gently lay it out flat in the sun and when it's dry, you'll have an official homemade. Bill of Friendship Rights Suggestion. Make two so 당신 don't fight over who gets to keep it.
posted by riathebest_23
Depending on what's gone down, a formal apology may be the only way your friend can atone for her sins. If 당신 need a sincere "I'm sorry" to get over her infraction that's OK. But 당신 might have to ask for it. She can't read your mind and changes are she feels bad about the fight too. 저기요 maybe she's reaching Friend Fight Fixers through 5 right now trying to map out her apology strategy. Make it easy for her. Send an e-mail explaining that 당신 just needed to know it won't happen against so it's she were to apologize and mad make a propreties that'd he enough for you.
posted by riathebest_23
All right, you're upset, Maybe you're furning. Maybe you'd like to brand your friend's hair in an industrial blender. That's fine. Let yourself be But be mad in a pair of running shoes while 당신 jog a mile. Be mad at your 베개 while 당신 pulyerize those teeny inner. Cruellar on your friend because that can create mutual madness which would really blow things beyond proportion. The heat of your feelings: will cool down and, when you're done seeing red, simply call Miss Knuckle head and tell her what's up: Did 당신 know 당신 really bummed me out the other 일 when 당신 blurted my business in front of everyone? Can 당신 promise not to do it again? Great, thinks Enough said.
posted by riathebest_23
That's right. 제비, 삼키기 your pride, and let it slide - even though 당신 absolutely, posilutely know for sure that 당신 did so pay her brick the five bucks 당신 borrowed from her. She's peeved, and you're left wondering if she's having a brain lapse 또는 something. So why should 당신 say "sorry" and 샤워 her with gifts, darn it" Well, let's put this in perspective, shall we Look is it really worth losing a friend over a five-spot: Offer up a hard-to-resist compromise" "I'll tell 당신 what let's searf down five dollars worth of Baskin Robbins, my treat, and call it even Steven." If she insists on having it her way cough up the $5 and consider it an investment in the freidnship. Even if she is having a brain lapse she's your bud and was nice enough to float 당신 the moolah to begin with. Oh, and 다음 time 당신 pay her back on a loan ask for a receipt Nicely.
posted by riathebest_23
For some girls, gifts are the way to go. It may sound totally materialistic but 저기요 she's your friend and, some bud can be bribed as we all know! If it takes a little sweet nothing to get her to stop scrunching her face at 당신 as 당신 pass in the halls, then get to it. What won't work? Easy to-get-gifts like a "nice" candle 또는 frame. Sorry What will work? A framed picture of the two of 당신 in better times. 또는 a candle 당신 made just for her at one of those fun craft-making stores. All other gift ideals are subject to details only 당신 know about your friend. The 더 많이 personal, the better: 덮개, 랩 your package in homemade wrapping paper (sponge-paint some plain, white paper), and present it ti her in private With any luck she'll be unable to fight back those fears of joy
posted by riathebest_23
Sometimes a thousand words aren't worth jack. 또는 maybe you're not a word person, which means saying 또는 글쓰기 an apology would be like hiking up 바나나 Reel Mountain in six inch stilcttols. Non-word people are usually either visual-artsy 또는 have a thing for math. And since calculating a serious algebra equation isn't all that heart-warming (unless you're watching Good Will Hunting), this is for the art lovingal. Draw paint, sketch a picture that screamer. "You're awesome and I'm such a Party McBee for 더 많이 seeing the hurtfulness of what I did" Mount the picture 또는 a piece of poster board and at the 상단, 맨 위로 center expertly write her name in oversized block letters, Deliver it to her with a smile. If your masterpiece doesn't muster peace, it's back to the drawing board, Lady Picasso. Read on
posted by riathebest_23
Heart-to-heart talks stink like dog doo. That's not the 인기 opinion - especially if 당신 tune in to the 7th Haven 또는 any of those hokey 영화 on TV's Lifetime network for women -- but it's a realistic truth for plenty of people. Too many emotionally charged chats are just nerve - annihilating yuvky, muscfests of overly sensitive feelings. 당신 have to tell her why 당신 wish 당신 could turn the Erch a Sketch of your wrongdoing event upside down. But since 당신 can't send a letter to get it through her noggin how great she is, how much 당신 cherrish her, how 당신 are - from now until you're both grannies - going to be sensitive to whatever it is she's upset about. Put it on pretty stationery, and 달팽이 mail in with cutsie stickers and a pool stump. She should call the 분 she reads it.
posted by riathebest_23
When a friend lets 당신 know she's upset about something you've said 또는 done (or she thought 당신 said 또는 did), it's up to 당신 to clear the air. Even if it's a misunderstanding - wait, especially if it's a misunderstanding - you've gotta step up to the apology plate. Admitting you're wrong isn't easy, but if 당신 do a hat dance around her now sensitive feelings, the drama will just grow. To deliver a sincere apology, look your friend in the eye and tell her. "I am so sorry." Now hug, cry, do what 당신 do, then go eat something atery-clogging and talk about not-so-serious, stuff, like celebs and makeup: You've had enough serious discussion for one afternoon.
posted by riathebest_23
When the disagreement is too hurtful, if your words 또는 actions are too damaging, a friend might just not want to make up with you.

If 당신 have been disloyal, and do not reveal your true desire to continue a friendship, then think it over, and never say 또는 do these things again.

Avoid accusing the friend, if 당신 accuse them it gives them 더 많이 reason to fight back.

True 프렌즈 are hard to find and keep. Remember this. 당신 will meet many 프렌즈 in life, but only perhaps one will be true and sincere.

If 당신 think they did 또는 said something, don"t always jump to conclusions. Ask if they did 또는 didn't...
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posted by riathebest_23
1 point
Let the argument simmer for a while, 의해 leaving it alone, and avoiding communication. If 당신 talk right after the fight, many things are said out of anger. However, do not wait too long as allowing bad feelings to brew for too long creates a situation that becomes 더 많이 difficult to make up. So after the fight calms down, make sure 당신 talk to the person before its too late. After 당신 do that, sit down and say your sorry if 당신 the one who caused the fight. Even if it was the other persons fault, just take the blame so 당신 will make up sooner than later.
2 point
Take time to reconsider if this person is really a friend if you're constantly in fights and always making up first
3 point
Reflect on what 당신 may have done. Read past emails, chats ect. This will help 당신 understand their point of view.
4 point
Give in and apologize. The other person probably wants to do it too, but it shows that you're a courageous and dedicated friend.