Spike & Faith

The BTVS writers worked hard to make the show so deep and intelligent. To incite strong feelings and make 당신 really think about what was going on in the show.
But there are some scenes that I think I was watching wrong. Times when I'm sure that what I was supposed to be thinking and what I was actually thinking were quite different. Scenes like these:

1. S5 Ep4 'Out of my mind' where we see Buffy & Spike kiss, then find out it is Spike dreaming.
I was supposed to think:
What's going on? Buffy cheating on Riley with Spike? Spike loves Buffy? is this a dream? A spell?
I was actually thinking:...