I want 당신 to know you’re not alone.
Sometimes it feels like you’re the only one—the only woman in the world who flits along the line of self-reliant and dependent, tender and tough, capable and yet still longing to be loved.
There’s nothing wrong with you. There’s nothing wrong with being the type of woman who is comfortable in her own skin, able to live her life her own way, perfectly fine making her own decisions, and yet, totally and completely interested in finding a man to stand 의해 her side.
There’s nothing wrong with being the type of woman who’s just fine when she’s single, who doesn’t need a significant other to complete her, who doesn’t feel 로스트 또는 purposeless outside of a relationship, yet still hopes to have one.
There’s nothing wrong with being independent and strong-willed, determined and self-sufficient, and yet still 사랑 to love.
Sometimes the world makes 당신 feel like 당신 have to choose one side 또는 the other. If you’re going to be the independent woman, then 당신 have to claim your singleness, right? 당신 have to be distant and removed. 당신 have to walk around with this ‘I don’t need a man’ attitude, and shun any woman who dares to lower herself 의해 letting someone in.
And if you’re the opposite, then you’re the woman who has her relationship(s) as her central focus. The woman whose emotions and decisions are ruled 의해 love. The woman who is continuously shifting and changing her life to accommodate a significant other and the dreams the two of them have together.
But neither of those sides feel right to you.
Because 당신 are not the kind of woman who sees men as obstacles in your way. 당신 don’t wear your independence as a badge on your chest, as an excuse to push men out of your heart. But 당신 don’t feel like your life purpose is to be in a relationship, to fall in love, to have someone 의해 your side all the time.
Sometimes the world makes those sides look like polar opposites, and when you’re standing there, trying to figure out where 당신 fit, neither side feels healthy. Either you’re so alone 또는 so wrapped up in love, and even though 당신 know that’s not exactly how it is, 당신 can’t seem to find yourself fitting anywhere.
But you’re not the only one who feels this way.
You’re not the only one who feels confident and proud of who she is and wants to guard that independence, yet still wants to find someone to share her life with. You’re not the only one who values the parts of herself that have grown in her singleness, yet hopes to be in a relationship with someone who allows her to bloom both together and separate.
당신 are an independent and strong woman who loves to love. 당신 can stand your ground, make your own choices, live your own life, yet 당신 enjoy dating and being connected to another person. 당신 are your best self when 당신 are a little of both—self-loving and outward-loving.
And there is absolutely nothing wrong with that.
당신 don’t have to give up parts of yourself to fall into a relationship. 당신 don’t have to compromise your self-sufficiency, your strength, your sense of being just to let someone in. 당신 don’t have to feel tied down 의해 your relationships, 또는 that 당신 are changing who 당신 are just to 사랑 someone.
It is possible to be the girl who’s independent, and still depend on the guy she loves. It is possible to be the woman who’s strong, and even stronger with her man 의해 her side.
So own who 당신 are, how 당신 love, the way 당신 feel. What the world doesn’t understand is truly how hard 당신 have it. 당신 live in a continual state of conflict. 당신 long to be independent and powerful, but 당신 crave the connection 당신 can have with someone else. 당신 want to live out your self-focused, self-driven existence, but at the same time, 당신 want to share your world with another person.
당신 don’t want to appear to be too selfish 또는 self-centered, but 당신 don’t want to look feeble 또는 dependent either—it’s hard to be a strong, independent woman who loves to love.
But let this be a reminder that 당신 are not the only woman who has this tension. 당신 are not the only one who shifts back and forth, unsure of where she fits.
So own the parts of 당신 that flit this line. Own the parts of 당신 that 사랑 yourself, and the parts that 사랑 to love. Own the ways 당신 are not like either side of the world, but have made your own nook. Own the woman 당신 are because there is nothing wrong with her; she is a perfect mix.
Sometimes it feels like you’re the only one—the only woman in the world who flits along the line of self-reliant and dependent, tender and tough, capable and yet still longing to be loved.
There’s nothing wrong with you. There’s nothing wrong with being the type of woman who is comfortable in her own skin, able to live her life her own way, perfectly fine making her own decisions, and yet, totally and completely interested in finding a man to stand 의해 her side.
There’s nothing wrong with being the type of woman who’s just fine when she’s single, who doesn’t need a significant other to complete her, who doesn’t feel 로스트 또는 purposeless outside of a relationship, yet still hopes to have one.
There’s nothing wrong with being independent and strong-willed, determined and self-sufficient, and yet still 사랑 to love.
Sometimes the world makes 당신 feel like 당신 have to choose one side 또는 the other. If you’re going to be the independent woman, then 당신 have to claim your singleness, right? 당신 have to be distant and removed. 당신 have to walk around with this ‘I don’t need a man’ attitude, and shun any woman who dares to lower herself 의해 letting someone in.
And if you’re the opposite, then you’re the woman who has her relationship(s) as her central focus. The woman whose emotions and decisions are ruled 의해 love. The woman who is continuously shifting and changing her life to accommodate a significant other and the dreams the two of them have together.
But neither of those sides feel right to you.
Because 당신 are not the kind of woman who sees men as obstacles in your way. 당신 don’t wear your independence as a badge on your chest, as an excuse to push men out of your heart. But 당신 don’t feel like your life purpose is to be in a relationship, to fall in love, to have someone 의해 your side all the time.
Sometimes the world makes those sides look like polar opposites, and when you’re standing there, trying to figure out where 당신 fit, neither side feels healthy. Either you’re so alone 또는 so wrapped up in love, and even though 당신 know that’s not exactly how it is, 당신 can’t seem to find yourself fitting anywhere.
But you’re not the only one who feels this way.
You’re not the only one who feels confident and proud of who she is and wants to guard that independence, yet still wants to find someone to share her life with. You’re not the only one who values the parts of herself that have grown in her singleness, yet hopes to be in a relationship with someone who allows her to bloom both together and separate.
당신 are an independent and strong woman who loves to love. 당신 can stand your ground, make your own choices, live your own life, yet 당신 enjoy dating and being connected to another person. 당신 are your best self when 당신 are a little of both—self-loving and outward-loving.
And there is absolutely nothing wrong with that.
당신 don’t have to give up parts of yourself to fall into a relationship. 당신 don’t have to compromise your self-sufficiency, your strength, your sense of being just to let someone in. 당신 don’t have to feel tied down 의해 your relationships, 또는 that 당신 are changing who 당신 are just to 사랑 someone.
It is possible to be the girl who’s independent, and still depend on the guy she loves. It is possible to be the woman who’s strong, and even stronger with her man 의해 her side.
So own who 당신 are, how 당신 love, the way 당신 feel. What the world doesn’t understand is truly how hard 당신 have it. 당신 live in a continual state of conflict. 당신 long to be independent and powerful, but 당신 crave the connection 당신 can have with someone else. 당신 want to live out your self-focused, self-driven existence, but at the same time, 당신 want to share your world with another person.
당신 don’t want to appear to be too selfish 또는 self-centered, but 당신 don’t want to look feeble 또는 dependent either—it’s hard to be a strong, independent woman who loves to love.
But let this be a reminder that 당신 are not the only woman who has this tension. 당신 are not the only one who shifts back and forth, unsure of where she fits.
So own the parts of 당신 that flit this line. Own the parts of 당신 that 사랑 yourself, and the parts that 사랑 to love. Own the ways 당신 are not like either side of the world, but have made your own nook. Own the woman 당신 are because there is nothing wrong with her; she is a perfect mix.
