First of all 당신 really must understand these 3: 1)YOU ARE NEITHER STUPID NOR COWARD 2)It's NOT YOR FAULT and NEVER blame yourself for suffering from social anxiety 3)It can be scientifically explained and treated if 당신 get help.
According to my experience of social anxiety knowing these 3 things was about the 50% of the problem's solution The 다음 thing 당신 should do is find a good counselor who understands exactly the problem My counselor has showed me that a particular thought creates an emotion which creates a behaviour. So the solution is to change the way 당신 think and think positively so your emotions are positive and your behaviour is positive and the way 당신 want it. This needs time of course and the right guidance.You have to learn to control negative thoughts and dare to do things that stress 당신 not very much of course in order to get used to them. In my case my regular sessions lasted about 3 months and my last one was 2 days ago.My counselor said that she's really happy with me and I've done great progress and I feel much happier with myself too.Now I'll visit her whenever I want 또는 something comes up She has given me a lot of information and she will 이메일 me 더 많이 so if 당신 또는 anyone wants to ask me anything 또는 talk about your problem with me do it. And remember:YOU ARE NOT WEAK.You have the strenght to change things.Don't ignore it believing it will just go away.If 당신 just leave it it will destroy 당신 like it was destroyng me for 16 years. 당신 CAN FIGHT IT AND WIN!!!
Somethings I've learned over the years with working on my social anxiety disorder...
Another way of attacking SAD is 의해 recognizing, accepting and then changing our beliefs about ourselves, which are deeply ingrained into our sub-conscious:
As a child 당신 may have been bullied. Your parents 또는 care giver/s may have been overly critical of 당신 and/or failed to encourage you. The people 당신 looked up to as a child may have been poor role models. 당신 may not have received the 사랑 that 당신 deserve. etc, etc.
All these types of experiences growing up have shaped our view of ourselves.
Sub-consciously your mind is telling 당신 all these negative beliefs about yourself, such as: "I'm not good enough" "I'm weird" "I don't deserve to be here" "I'm not important" "I should stay quiet because my viewpoint is silly" "I don't deserve to be loved and accepted"
Of course we all have different experiences, but they all have one thing in common - they have given us negative beliefs about ourselves.
We need to change those negative beliefs into positive ones. Of course, that's easier said then done. One way 당신 can do it is 의해 meditating (or deeply relaxing) and to repeat positive affirmations. Such as: "I have social anxiety, but it's not who I am" "I 사랑 and accept myself even though I have social anxiety" "I deserve to be loved and respected" "I 사랑 and respect myself"
I think accepting, loving and being kind to yourself even though 당신 have social anxiety is the first big step in the right direction.
당신 can 구글 to find lots of meditation/positive affirmation CD's on social anxiety, self confidence. 또는 even record your own.
I've recently discovered EFT - which may seem weird, and 당신 feel pretty silly while doing all this tapping - but I have found to be a very powerful technique for helping with my social anxiety.
Hope that helps! Best of luck in overcoming S.A.D.!
