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Do some people really go into relationships/marriages and have no sex?

...And is that really what 당신 would call Asexual? Is he Asexual? I mean my boyfriend has never had sex and says he never wants to, even with me 또는 not even when we get married. He just wants to 키스 and make out a lot, but nothing much 더 많이 than that, for the rest of our lives. The only time I even had sex was when I felt forced 의해 an ex boyfriend and was then raped 의해 him. I mean if I never have children then I could care less since I'm afraid of child birth pain and anything to do with my vagina pretty much. Children are wonderful, but I think they'd stress me too much anyway. So yeah I've never really had much sex either before, but sometimes I've felt horny in the past. Although I'm much 더 많이 afraid of penis and could probably live without it (Almost went full on Lesbian.) 또는 do 당신 think I'd eventually feel sex starved if me and him never had sex? What do 당신 all think about my situation here?
 MewStrawberry posted over a year ago
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sarabeara said:
Asexuality is the lack of sexual attraction for other people. It doesn't necessarily mean 당신 don't have a sex drive. There are loads of asexual people who wank constantly because they still get horny and need the release.

If you've never looked at a guy 또는 a girl and thought "hm, I want to have sex with that person" 또는 "I would totally have sex with that person" then 당신 might be asexual. Based solely on your 설명 of your boyfriend, he does sound asexual.

Yes, asexual people get married. They share the romantic/friendship aspect and just don't have sex. Not weird at all imo. Though as a disclaimer, all couples are different, and I have heard of asexual couples who will like jerk each other off. Not because they get anything out of it, but because they care about their partner and want to help them.

As for the rest of your paragraph, it's just word vomit. I'm sorry 당신 were raped (the way it was thrown in so casually threw me off wtf) and that 당신 are afraid of your own vagina. Idk what 당신 mean 의해 "almost went full on lesbian"??? And as for if you'd feel sex starved, that depends. Would 당신 be okay with just getting yourself off/using a dildo for the rest of your life, 또는 do 당신 think you'd want a partner to have sex with? Only 당신 can answer that question.

I suggest 당신 research asexuality and see if it describes how 당신 feel, because 당신 seem very confused as to what asexuality actually is.
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I was not just being casual about my rape. Of course it really bothers me, but I'm trying to be strong about it. Really I'm even 더 많이 afraid of penis now, because of my horrible experience and I don't want any objects going inside 또는 coming out like if I got pregnant for example. Any pain coming to my vagina is what I'm afraid of that's all. Also...Actually I think it's just he's really afraid of sex too. No need to be mean about this topic though. I was just concerned and needed help. 당신 kind of make me feel bad when 당신 seem like 당신 don't take me seriously and it's rude.
MewStrawberry posted over a year ago
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I apologize that 당신 felt I was being mean, because that was not my intention at all. I know that tone is hard to convey online but I promise 당신 that I was taking your post seriously. I just think there was a lot of information missing is all, so I was a bit confused. Once again, I'm sorry about your rape. That is HORRIBLE and if you're afraid of sex still because of it, I don't blame 당신 at all. 당신 were traumatized and 당신 should take as long as 당신 need to get comfortable. My 조언 is to have an open and honest conversation with your boyfriend. Have 당신 guys ever talked about it? I think both of 당신 talking about your fears would help a lot and would allow 당신 to possibly understand what 당신 want out of the relationship. An open and honest line of communication might clear a lot of your 질문 up, 또는 at the very least ease some of your concerns.
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