read these tips on how 당신 can ruin a 날짜 so 당신 can avoid ruining one in the future.
1)DO NOT OVER ANALYZE THE RELATIONSHIP
most guys freak when they hear the word relationship in the early days of dating. they think "oh no why did she have to go spoil things 의해 bringing this up?!"They also often think that when a girl wants to talk about a relationship, she really means she wants to pick him apart, expose all his flaws, and make him feel like a toad. If 당신 really feel 당신 need to talk about the relationship, try a softer approach. Avoid issuing an order like, "We need to talk about us," which most guys find terrifying. Instead, try a 더 많이 specific statement like, "For the last week 또는 so, I’ve noticed this has been happening, and so I've been thinking this. How do 당신 see it?" 의해 staying low-key, 당신 may help your guy to open up and recognize that talking about feelings doesn't have to feel weird.
2) OBSESSING ABOUT YOUR APPEARANCE
When a guy hears 당신 badmouth the way 당신 look, he feels trapped in a no-win situation. He knows that if he says, "Well, yeah. 당신 could stand to lose a few pounds," he's going to upset you. And if he says, "C'mon! 당신 look fine to me," you’ll think he's just saying that to make 당신 feel good. So why even ASK appearance-related 질문 in the first place? Probably because you're looking for some kind of reassurance from him. A hint that he finds 당신 attractive. 또는 that it's your inner beauty — not your outer physique — that's won him over. While there's nothing wrong with wanting a compliment, it's best not to 물고기 for one. Guys get tired of hearing girls ask lame, obvious 질문 like, "Do 당신 like my hair this way?" 또는 "Does this dress look dumb?" 또는 "Do 당신 notice anything different about me?" It makes them think that a girl's insecure, and they don't want to feel responsible for bolstering her self-image all the time.
REMEMBER JUST BECAUSE HE DOESNT 샤워 당신 WITH CONFIDENCE DONT THINK THE WORST.
3) 연기 LIKE A PARTY GIRL
If 당신 think guys notice girls who drink 또는 do drugs, you're right. It's hard to ignore a girl who staggers around, slurring her words, cigarette in one hand, a 맥주 in the other. But that kind of attention probably isn’t the kind 당신 want to attract. "I've known some girls who act really wild because they think that's what guys like," "But the kind of girl I'm interested in is one who can have fun without getting wasted." says my cousin lee.
4)BRINGING UP YOUR EX
It's natural to compare a guy you're now dating to an old flame. In fact, such comparisons can help 당신 figure out what 당신 find appealing about someone 또는 help 당신 to avoid making the same mistake twice. But 당신 don't need to fill your 날짜 in on your observations. So what if he and your ex wear the same cologne? What's the point in telling him that your ex was also really nervous the first time he met your dad? Such 코멘트 only serve to confuse a guy or, worse, give him a complex. Don't believe it? Consider how tortured you'd feel if your 날짜 started comparing 당신 to his ex!
5)CRITIQUING HIS APPEARANCE
You're just trying to be helpful, right? Like when 당신 point out how much better he'd look if he wore something besides those ratty sneakers. 또는 cut his hair like Justin Timberlake's.
당신 may think you're doing a guy a favor when you're 100 percent honest with him. But remember, there's a difference between being honest and being tactful. If 당신 find yourself obsessing over the fact that your guy could look SO MUCH better (or make better grades, 또는 be 더 많이 popular, 또는 whatever), consider whether it could be 당신 who needs to change. 당신 may be so hung up on your image as a couple that you've forgotten why you're a couple in the first place. If that's the case, try to stop looking at your guy through critical eyes. It'll do your 심장 — and your relationship — good!
1)DO NOT OVER ANALYZE THE RELATIONSHIP
most guys freak when they hear the word relationship in the early days of dating. they think "oh no why did she have to go spoil things 의해 bringing this up?!"They also often think that when a girl wants to talk about a relationship, she really means she wants to pick him apart, expose all his flaws, and make him feel like a toad. If 당신 really feel 당신 need to talk about the relationship, try a softer approach. Avoid issuing an order like, "We need to talk about us," which most guys find terrifying. Instead, try a 더 많이 specific statement like, "For the last week 또는 so, I’ve noticed this has been happening, and so I've been thinking this. How do 당신 see it?" 의해 staying low-key, 당신 may help your guy to open up and recognize that talking about feelings doesn't have to feel weird.
2) OBSESSING ABOUT YOUR APPEARANCE
When a guy hears 당신 badmouth the way 당신 look, he feels trapped in a no-win situation. He knows that if he says, "Well, yeah. 당신 could stand to lose a few pounds," he's going to upset you. And if he says, "C'mon! 당신 look fine to me," you’ll think he's just saying that to make 당신 feel good. So why even ASK appearance-related 질문 in the first place? Probably because you're looking for some kind of reassurance from him. A hint that he finds 당신 attractive. 또는 that it's your inner beauty — not your outer physique — that's won him over. While there's nothing wrong with wanting a compliment, it's best not to 물고기 for one. Guys get tired of hearing girls ask lame, obvious 질문 like, "Do 당신 like my hair this way?" 또는 "Does this dress look dumb?" 또는 "Do 당신 notice anything different about me?" It makes them think that a girl's insecure, and they don't want to feel responsible for bolstering her self-image all the time.
REMEMBER JUST BECAUSE HE DOESNT 샤워 당신 WITH CONFIDENCE DONT THINK THE WORST.
3) 연기 LIKE A PARTY GIRL
If 당신 think guys notice girls who drink 또는 do drugs, you're right. It's hard to ignore a girl who staggers around, slurring her words, cigarette in one hand, a 맥주 in the other. But that kind of attention probably isn’t the kind 당신 want to attract. "I've known some girls who act really wild because they think that's what guys like," "But the kind of girl I'm interested in is one who can have fun without getting wasted." says my cousin lee.
4)BRINGING UP YOUR EX
It's natural to compare a guy you're now dating to an old flame. In fact, such comparisons can help 당신 figure out what 당신 find appealing about someone 또는 help 당신 to avoid making the same mistake twice. But 당신 don't need to fill your 날짜 in on your observations. So what if he and your ex wear the same cologne? What's the point in telling him that your ex was also really nervous the first time he met your dad? Such 코멘트 only serve to confuse a guy or, worse, give him a complex. Don't believe it? Consider how tortured you'd feel if your 날짜 started comparing 당신 to his ex!
5)CRITIQUING HIS APPEARANCE
You're just trying to be helpful, right? Like when 당신 point out how much better he'd look if he wore something besides those ratty sneakers. 또는 cut his hair like Justin Timberlake's.
당신 may think you're doing a guy a favor when you're 100 percent honest with him. But remember, there's a difference between being honest and being tactful. If 당신 find yourself obsessing over the fact that your guy could look SO MUCH better (or make better grades, 또는 be 더 많이 popular, 또는 whatever), consider whether it could be 당신 who needs to change. 당신 may be so hung up on your image as a couple that you've forgotten why you're a couple in the first place. If that's the case, try to stop looking at your guy through critical eyes. It'll do your 심장 — and your relationship — good!
