Looking at all the 질문 you've asked, I'd say you've got a pretty crappy boyfriend. No offense, but 당신 really should break up with him if he does that stuff
NO ITS NOT OK!!!. IT shows lack of RESPECT. If he is doing something that you've ASKED him NOT TO DO ,it shows he is only thinking of himself and doesnt seem to care about your feelings. PLEASE FIND SOMEONE ELSE.
depends, if 당신 tell him not to wear a green 셔츠 but he forgot and did it anyway thats okay simple mistake, if 당신 tell him to stop hitting 당신 and he doesn't then its just wrong and hurtful.