Charm-the Real Feminine Mystique:
"A girl need not have perfect features nor an outstanding figure to be popular. But she should have charm. As Sir James Barrie had Maggie say in his play, What Every Woman Knows, 'If 당신 have it, 당신 don't need to have anything else; and if 당신 don't have it, it doesn't much matter what else 당신 have.'
Once 당신 have acquired charm, you'll probably never lose it. Especially after 당신 have discovered how much happier your life is because 당신 are considered to be that charming girl down the street.
To be charming 당신 need not to be any particular age, weight 또는 height 또는 have any specific coloring 또는 proportions. Charm is like an essence. It is easier to recognize it in a person than to define it, although Webster's Third New International Dictionary says that charm is 'a combination of entirely attractive and delightful traits.'
Author and scholar Havelock Ellis wrote, 'Charm is a woman's strength just as strength is a man's charm.'"
So some of 당신 might have guessed as much, but I am definitely a person who is living "out of my time" in the sense that I feel like I would fit in better with a different era. That being said, I have one of those old "Charm Handbooks" from the early 1970s before American woman started throwing away all of their charm and graces out of the window. I 사랑 this book, the values it teaches and the 조언 it gives. Most of all, I 사랑 how this book has never made me feel 더 많이 proud of femininity and what true femininity produces. I wish that charm schools were still a big deal in America, especially since they are 더 많이 needed now than they were in their time. Since this valuable wealth of knowledge has been cast away as "old-timey" instead of recognized as "tried and true", I thought I would share some of it here, for those who still care about women having grace, respecting each other and having better relations with other people. In relation to the 디즈니 Princesses, I have attached each DP to the attribute of charm that I think she best represents:
"Don't blame your family, circumstances 또는 birth for what 당신 are. Your personality can become the way 당신 wish it to be... It is up to 당신 to make the changes necessary for improvement. Changing is a part of growing, a process that began when 당신 were born. It continues all your life. 의해 giving 더 많이 thought to your attitudes, 당신 can alter and redirect the course of your life.
Remember you'll only be as beautiful as the inner 당신 permits. Cosmetics, clothing, and a trim figure can do wonders, but they can seldom hide a distorted inner you."
Poise: Aurora
The poised girl maintains calm when she has a difficult situation to handle. She goes about it naturally and easily and avoids nervous movements of the body. This will only serve to work to her advantage. She does not want to let her enemies know they have affected her and she doesn't want to lose her head in impulsive and irrational thoughts. Her grace will also help her lead others into being 더 많이 calm in a difficult situation.
Spirit of Adventure: Ariel
Since 당신 can't always pack your bags and sail to faraway islands, begin to develop a spirit of adventure 의해 trying new ideas, new thoughts, a new method of study, a new way of wearing your hair 또는 even a new food! Trying new things opens up 더 많이 possibilities in your life. 당신 will be able to learn 더 많이 about yourself (including what 당신 like and don't like) as well as others. [This will also give 당신 더 많이 to talk about with a bigger range of diverse people.]
Sense of Humor: Anna
You'll find the person 당신 enjoy being with most is the one who finds the things 당신 say witty. 더 많이 important, the one who enjoys being with 당신 is also someone whose wit 당신 appreciate. Look for the things in life worth laughing about. If 당신 take yourself too seriously and cannot laugh about simple things, this will have an effect on your later 사무용 겉옷, 전반적인 health. You'll get extra points for telling a funny story about yourself. Remember, however, to laugh with people, not at them.
Appreciation of Beauty: 재스민 속, 재 스민 & Pocahontas
당신 can hardly be charming and beautiful if 당신 can't see and feel beauty. If 당신 haven't thought about it, try, to appreciate the beautiful things in life. There is beauty all around- in the shape of a leaf, the changing sky, the smell of spring, 또는 the laughter of a friend.
Be An Interesting/Interested Conversationalist: Elsa
당신 should be interesting to others. That means 당신 must be able to contribute to a conversation- at a party, in groups, large 또는 small, even on a one-to-one basis. Find out what 당신 really like. Learn to talk about interests such as music, books, 영화 또는 sports etc.
Spiritual Graciousness: Snow White
Spiritual graciousness is at the 심장 of charm. Know and practice the courtesies of daily living. Avoid jokes at the expense of others; avoid gossip and a condemnatory attitude. Forgive those who hurt you. Show tolerance for those who upset you. Generosity of spirit involves giving credit and praise from when they are deserved. Respect the opinions and rights of other people. Treat them the way 당신 would like to be treated regardless of their station in life. The Golden Rule is as important today as ever.
Balanced Emotions: 신데렐라 & Belle
Perhaps the hardest requirement of all is self-discipline- control of yourself and your emotions. Spontaneously showing happiness, joy, surprise- 또는 even annoyance when 당신 are angered- is to be true to yourself. But to live happily with others, 당신 also must exercise self-control. It is this balance between spontaneity of feelings and discipline 또는 control that 당신 will want to achieve.
Making Friends: Rapunzel
The charming girl is interested in virtually all [good] people and all aspects of life. She knows that almost everyone [decent] can contribute something to her life. So meet and make new friends; don't your 원, 동그라미 of 프렌즈 to just a few if 당신 really want to grow.
Good Family Relationships & Values: 뮬란 & Tiana
Because we are so close to our families, we tend to lose sight of the fact that they deserve the same courtesies we give others [especially strangers]. Too often we expect our parents, siblings, etc. to give 더 많이 to us than we give to them. There should be mutual respect and understanding within family groups. If 당신 don't think 당신 are getting it, try giving it. It will probably be returned.
Self-Confidence: Merida
If 당신 don't like yourself, if 당신 don't feel your actions, habits 또는 appearance can stand competition, 또는 comparison, 당신 lack self-confidence. If 당신 don't believe in yourself, no one else will. If 당신 do believe in yourself, there is almost nothing in life 당신 wont be able to do.
"A girl need not have perfect features nor an outstanding figure to be popular. But she should have charm. As Sir James Barrie had Maggie say in his play, What Every Woman Knows, 'If 당신 have it, 당신 don't need to have anything else; and if 당신 don't have it, it doesn't much matter what else 당신 have.'
Once 당신 have acquired charm, you'll probably never lose it. Especially after 당신 have discovered how much happier your life is because 당신 are considered to be that charming girl down the street.
To be charming 당신 need not to be any particular age, weight 또는 height 또는 have any specific coloring 또는 proportions. Charm is like an essence. It is easier to recognize it in a person than to define it, although Webster's Third New International Dictionary says that charm is 'a combination of entirely attractive and delightful traits.'
Author and scholar Havelock Ellis wrote, 'Charm is a woman's strength just as strength is a man's charm.'"
So some of 당신 might have guessed as much, but I am definitely a person who is living "out of my time" in the sense that I feel like I would fit in better with a different era. That being said, I have one of those old "Charm Handbooks" from the early 1970s before American woman started throwing away all of their charm and graces out of the window. I 사랑 this book, the values it teaches and the 조언 it gives. Most of all, I 사랑 how this book has never made me feel 더 많이 proud of femininity and what true femininity produces. I wish that charm schools were still a big deal in America, especially since they are 더 많이 needed now than they were in their time. Since this valuable wealth of knowledge has been cast away as "old-timey" instead of recognized as "tried and true", I thought I would share some of it here, for those who still care about women having grace, respecting each other and having better relations with other people. In relation to the 디즈니 Princesses, I have attached each DP to the attribute of charm that I think she best represents:
"Don't blame your family, circumstances 또는 birth for what 당신 are. Your personality can become the way 당신 wish it to be... It is up to 당신 to make the changes necessary for improvement. Changing is a part of growing, a process that began when 당신 were born. It continues all your life. 의해 giving 더 많이 thought to your attitudes, 당신 can alter and redirect the course of your life.
Remember you'll only be as beautiful as the inner 당신 permits. Cosmetics, clothing, and a trim figure can do wonders, but they can seldom hide a distorted inner you."
Poise: Aurora
The poised girl maintains calm when she has a difficult situation to handle. She goes about it naturally and easily and avoids nervous movements of the body. This will only serve to work to her advantage. She does not want to let her enemies know they have affected her and she doesn't want to lose her head in impulsive and irrational thoughts. Her grace will also help her lead others into being 더 많이 calm in a difficult situation.
Spirit of Adventure: Ariel
Since 당신 can't always pack your bags and sail to faraway islands, begin to develop a spirit of adventure 의해 trying new ideas, new thoughts, a new method of study, a new way of wearing your hair 또는 even a new food! Trying new things opens up 더 많이 possibilities in your life. 당신 will be able to learn 더 많이 about yourself (including what 당신 like and don't like) as well as others. [This will also give 당신 더 많이 to talk about with a bigger range of diverse people.]
Sense of Humor: Anna
You'll find the person 당신 enjoy being with most is the one who finds the things 당신 say witty. 더 많이 important, the one who enjoys being with 당신 is also someone whose wit 당신 appreciate. Look for the things in life worth laughing about. If 당신 take yourself too seriously and cannot laugh about simple things, this will have an effect on your later 사무용 겉옷, 전반적인 health. You'll get extra points for telling a funny story about yourself. Remember, however, to laugh with people, not at them.
Appreciation of Beauty: 재스민 속, 재 스민 & Pocahontas
당신 can hardly be charming and beautiful if 당신 can't see and feel beauty. If 당신 haven't thought about it, try, to appreciate the beautiful things in life. There is beauty all around- in the shape of a leaf, the changing sky, the smell of spring, 또는 the laughter of a friend.
Be An Interesting/Interested Conversationalist: Elsa
당신 should be interesting to others. That means 당신 must be able to contribute to a conversation- at a party, in groups, large 또는 small, even on a one-to-one basis. Find out what 당신 really like. Learn to talk about interests such as music, books, 영화 또는 sports etc.
Spiritual Graciousness: Snow White
Spiritual graciousness is at the 심장 of charm. Know and practice the courtesies of daily living. Avoid jokes at the expense of others; avoid gossip and a condemnatory attitude. Forgive those who hurt you. Show tolerance for those who upset you. Generosity of spirit involves giving credit and praise from when they are deserved. Respect the opinions and rights of other people. Treat them the way 당신 would like to be treated regardless of their station in life. The Golden Rule is as important today as ever.
Balanced Emotions: 신데렐라 & Belle
Perhaps the hardest requirement of all is self-discipline- control of yourself and your emotions. Spontaneously showing happiness, joy, surprise- 또는 even annoyance when 당신 are angered- is to be true to yourself. But to live happily with others, 당신 also must exercise self-control. It is this balance between spontaneity of feelings and discipline 또는 control that 당신 will want to achieve.
Making Friends: Rapunzel
The charming girl is interested in virtually all [good] people and all aspects of life. She knows that almost everyone [decent] can contribute something to her life. So meet and make new friends; don't your 원, 동그라미 of 프렌즈 to just a few if 당신 really want to grow.
Good Family Relationships & Values: 뮬란 & Tiana
Because we are so close to our families, we tend to lose sight of the fact that they deserve the same courtesies we give others [especially strangers]. Too often we expect our parents, siblings, etc. to give 더 많이 to us than we give to them. There should be mutual respect and understanding within family groups. If 당신 don't think 당신 are getting it, try giving it. It will probably be returned.
Self-Confidence: Merida
If 당신 don't like yourself, if 당신 don't feel your actions, habits 또는 appearance can stand competition, 또는 comparison, 당신 lack self-confidence. If 당신 don't believe in yourself, no one else will. If 당신 do believe in yourself, there is almost nothing in life 당신 wont be able to do.